Monty said, “The answer is remarkably simple but complex in execution. Do what will provide you the most freedom of time and spirit.”
My response, each one considering another need: living with people who are close to me, writing lots of papers, getting a permanent position, maintaining ties with family and friends or even buying investment property near them, saving up… and staying out of economically or emotionally draining relationships.
Another friend, very cleverly I might say, told me the worst-case scenario of what she thought I might do over the next few months, and how it would affect me 10 years from now.
I refuse to prove her right. I have to be strong.